How the Boy became the Cub
As long as I could remember, I assumed that all gay men were metrosexual and “pretty”. When I was trying to come out of the closet I wanted to resist the trends I kept seeing by the “mainstream” gay men that I knew. However, I wasn’t quite sure who or where to find my place in the community. When I learned what gay bears were initially, I was repulsed. The image of the bear community for me at the time involved lots of leather, fur, fat, and sloppy unprotected sex. Bear men were seen as animals that just like to … Read more